I get asked often, “why did you choose to be a marriage and family therapist?” and the answer to that is; even when it’s good being married is hard! People need help with it and I would like to try to do that. It’s ok to ask for help if you think your marriage might need it.
My first tip would be to come into counseling before you think you need it. Even when things are good we know there are aspects about our partner’s that we find annoying, we all know about that unresolved fight that we keep having, and we all have things that worry us. When things are going well is the easiest time to talk about and work on those things. It is when both parties are more willing to discuss and possibly make changes. So make that appointment. If you wait until something is really wrong it might be too late.
My second tip is to stop trying to read your partners mind. Phrases like “I know what they are thinking….” or “They should know what I meant….” are possible red flags within a relationship. Unless you or your partner have psychic abilities (which would be really cool) there should be no mind reading. Ask what your partner is thinking, say what you like. It’s a myth that if you are meant to be with someone you will “just know”. Nope. If you are meant to be with someone you will have strong communication skills. Come on in and let’s work on those.
Fine tune your relationship today for a stronger relationship in the future. I am here to help.
Marriage and Family Therapy, Las Vegas, LLC 