Tis the season of giving. If you have the gift of time, money or energy to give then by all means, please give those gifts! Please know your limit though! It is okay to say no if giving would mean sacrificing part of yourself. You should never have to deplete all of your time, moneyContinue reading “The Giving Season”
Author Archives: Lisa Toms, MS
Goals can seem overwhelming at first. It is important to remember that each big goal was made up of 1000 little steps to get there. What small step did you take today toward your goal? If you need help breaking down your goals into smaller steps, I am happy to help. If you need helpContinue reading
Disconnected?
Do you feel disconnected in your relationship? Do you wish you could find your way back to each other? Do you want to feel like your partner is on your team again? Communicating in a clear way is difficult, made even harder when emotions are involved. Let me help you sort through all that noiseContinue reading “Disconnected?”
Happiness
What even is happiness? How will you know when you are happy? Happiness can seem like an elusive beast. Just as you grab it it slips through your fingers. I believe that happiness comes in moments of joy peppered throughout your life. I do not think it is a constant state of being. I thinkContinue reading “Happiness”
Boundaries
Do you feel like people take advantage of you? Do you feel like you give too much? Do you always say ‘yes’ when people ask you a favor? Do you wish there was some way to say ‘no’ sometimes? Do you worry that no one will like you if you say ‘no’? Do you wishContinue reading “Boundaries”
Being Married is Hard
I get asked often, “why did you choose to be a marriage and family therapist?” and the answer to that is; even when it’s good being married is hard! People need help with it and I would like to try to do that. It’s ok to ask for help if you think your marriage mightContinue reading “Being Married is Hard”
Letting Go
Letting go of things not meant for us is one of the hardest things to do. We are programed to hold on to every hurt, every slight, everything thing we think we’ve done wrong. Biologically holding onto pain was helpful; we were then able to learn from our mistakes and make sure the same badContinue reading “Letting Go”
Trust yourself
Trusting yourself is one of the most essential skills in being able to get through life. In fact if you don’t trust other people it is really because you don’t trust yourself. As you grow and start to believe in yourself it becomes less important what other people do because you know, whatever it is,Continue reading “Trust yourself”
The Quest for Perfect
Many people worry about doing everything perfectly. And they worry about what will happen if they fall short. These thoughts set us up to fail! There is no such thing as being perfect and by placing such enourmous expectations on ourselves we are bound to feel stress and worry. In session we will challenge theseContinue reading “The Quest for Perfect”
Therapy sucks.
Therapy can suck. It is hard to talk about all those uncomfortable things that we hold inside of us. We worry about being judged, or that saying them will give them power. However, the opposite is true. Speaking your story, even the horrible parts, especially the horrible parts, takes away the weight and space thatContinue reading “Therapy sucks.”