Stuck?

Do you feel stuck? In a rut? In a pattern you can’t shake? Like you are spinning in circles and can’t move forward? There is a way out. The first step is recognizing your part in the pattern. What are you doing to contribute to the cycle? And this isn’t about blame or shame, thisContinue reading “Stuck?”

What Do I Do If My Partner Doesn’t Want to Come to Therapy?

What do you do when you want to go to couples therapy and your partner doesn’t? You have a few options.  The first is to explore with them why they don’t want to come. There is a lot of stigma around couples therapy that might be holding your partner back. Are they nervous that theContinue reading “What Do I Do If My Partner Doesn’t Want to Come to Therapy?”

Rule Number One

Rule Number One: No Assuming For me the first rule of all relationships is no assumptions. You do not know what they are thinking and you should not expect them to know what you are thinking. NO ONE IS A MIND READER,  I am sorry but they just aren’t. I think we run into relationship dangerContinue reading “Rule Number One”

You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup

I talk a lot about self care, I think it is important. While the ultimate goal is to connect fully, and honestly with others that is an impossible task if you do not even know how to take care of yourself. I am not talking about bubble baths (although if that is what you love,Continue reading “You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup”

Out of Control

We know people who are Type A; who like to plan and sort and organize and feel like they have control over their lives. Feeling out of control is scary! When people who enjoy feeling control feel out of control they can lash out at themselves, their lives and those around them. The anxiety thatContinue reading “Out of Control”

Who are you?

So often we pay attention to who everyone else is and what they like and how they act and what they respond to. These are important skills to have when working with clients, bosses, kids, spouses, anyone really. But how much time do you spend thinking about who you are? Or what do you likeContinue reading “Who are you?”

Trust yourself

Trusting yourself is one of the most essential skills in being able to get through life. In fact if you don’t trust other people it is really because you don’t trust yourself. As you grow and start to believe in yourself it becomes less important what other people do because you know, whatever it is,Continue reading “Trust yourself”

Infertility

Infertility often brings a surprising and complex number of emotions, not to mention the physical and financial toll of treatments.  If you are feeling overwhelmed by the prospect of going through treatment or all of the choices that are involved, or if you have had success after infertility and still struggle with the emotions thatContinue reading “Infertility”