Rule Number One

Rule Number One: No Assuming

For me the first rule of all relationships is no assumptions. You do not know what they are thinking and you should not expect them to know what you are thinking. NO ONE IS A MIND READER,  I am sorry but they just aren’t. I think we run into relationship danger when we hold on to fantasies like, “if they knew me well enough they would know” or “I wanted them to pick up on my hints” or “I know what they are thinking” or “why don’t they just think like I do”. You are different than your partner, you think differently, you have different expectations and histories, and those are good things because that it was makes you interesting to each other. With that being said it makes the fantasy, just that, fantasy. Healthy communication involves you asking what they want, need, and hope for, and you saying what you want, need and hope for; and vice versa. I am not saying that you should have to repeat yourself 100 times, if you are that is a different conversation, but yes you do have to say things directly and out loud. 

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