Balance is a hard thing to achieve when we are used to thinking about things in extremes. Good behavior-bad behavior, good person- bad person. When we apply these extreme and harsh thoughts to actions, feelings, behaviors it is very easy to demonize yourself or others. Turns out this is childlike thinking. When we are childrenContinue reading “In all things; Balance”
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Unrealistic Hope
Acceptance is the idea that you can give up the hope that something will be different and take it as it is in reality. We often hold on to unrealistic hope in relationships and that holds us back from the freedom that comes with acceptance. Do you wish someone would do more, say more, beContinue reading “Unrealistic Hope”
You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup
I talk a lot about self care, I think it is important. While the ultimate goal is to connect fully, and honestly with others that is an impossible task if you do not even know how to take care of yourself. I am not talking about bubble baths (although if that is what you love,Continue reading “You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup”
You Matter. Act Accordingly.
Do you get lost in your own life? Do you exhaust yourself always doing things for other people? Do you know how to say “No. Thank you”? Do you treat yourself with the same grace and love that you treat everyone else with? If you said no to any of these then I would likeContinue reading “You Matter. Act Accordingly.”
Attention Health Care Workers and Support Staff
This time is all about you and how hard you are working to keep us healthy. You are working so much, worrying about our health, finding enough PPE, worrying about your family, and all the other things you have on your mind. During this extraordinary time don’t forget to protect your metal health. We allContinue reading “Attention Health Care Workers and Support Staff”
Under Pressure…
When we are under stress we forget what we are supposed to do to help us calm down. In that moment we can feel helpless, which makes us feel more stressed. Whatever tools you have that you like to help bring you back to present you should practice often. Balloon breathing, square breathing, breathe inContinue reading “Under Pressure…”
Who are you?
So often we pay attention to who everyone else is and what they like and how they act and what they respond to. These are important skills to have when working with clients, bosses, kids, spouses, anyone really. But how much time do you spend thinking about who you are? Or what do you likeContinue reading “Who are you?”
The Quest for Perfect
Many people worry about doing everything perfectly. And they worry about what will happen if they fall short. These thoughts set us up to fail! There is no such thing as being perfect and by placing such enourmous expectations on ourselves we are bound to feel stress and worry. In session we will challenge theseContinue reading “The Quest for Perfect”
It isn’t selfish to take care of yourself.
I have many clients who are concerned with the selfishness involved in asking for what they need, or taking the time to care for themselves. I like the analogy of being on an airplane and always putting on your own mask first before even trying to help others. Why is that? In low oxygen situationsContinue reading “It isn’t selfish to take care of yourself.”
Infertility
Infertility often brings a surprising and complex number of emotions, not to mention the physical and financial toll of treatments. If you are feeling overwhelmed by the prospect of going through treatment or all of the choices that are involved, or if you have had success after infertility and still struggle with the emotions thatContinue reading “Infertility”